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# How to Teach Your Cat to Enjoy Being Held

Written by [Bradley Phifer, CBCC-KA® CPDT-KA®](/waterbowl/author/bradley-phifer)

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Key points

- Start training sessions when your cat is relaxed using long strokes and soothing voice.
- Practice handling different body parts in small increments several times per day with treats.
- Watch out: Do not try to do too much too soon or your cat may become overwhelmed.


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Whether it is for petting, grooming, nail trims or veterinary exams, some cats become stressed when they are being handled and restrained. Your cat may demonstrate his dislike for the physical interaction by trying to wiggle or squirm out of your arms. He may meow or growl as you are holding him, and the most obvious sign your cat is displeased will be his tail flicking back and forth as you handle him.

Your cat may not enjoy being held, or having the veterinarian examine him, but this is a necessary part of being a cat. It is our job to ensure he is trained to tolerate, if not enjoy, these experiences.

## How to:

1. Start your first training session when your cat is relaxed. Invite him up on your lap and begin to pet him in long strokes down his body, scratch his ears, and allow him to rub his face in against your hand. Be sure to include other parts of his body such as his tail, legs, and stomach. Always use long strokes, and a soothing voice. Practice this step three to four times per day for thirty seconds. After your cat demonstrates he is comfortable with having his body petted you are ready to move to the next step.
2. Pick up your cat and place him in your lap. Have your hands around his shoulders while he sits in your lap for five to ten seconds. Offer him a special treat and allow him to jump back on the floor. If your cat is comfortable with this step and can sit in your lap for brief periods, begin picking up his foot, letting go of the foot and offering him a treat. Repeat this step as you touch his mouth/treat, touch his tail/treat, rub his belly/treat. You want to work in small increments several times per day to increase his tolerance for sitting patiently in your lap as well as having different parts of his body handled. The goal is to keep him within his threshold for tolerating the handling. Do not try to do too much, too soon where he is overwhelmed and attempts to get away.
3. Incorporate these handling exercises into playtime with your cat. Encourage him to chase one of his toys on a string for several seconds. Take a brief pause, handle his feet and begin playing again. The goal is always touch/treat, or touch/play as we build our cat’s tolerance level for handling and restraint. If you find yourself in a situation where you cat is becoming stressed, take a break and resume at a later time.
Practice makes perfect here, so when your cat is comfortable with you holding him, begin to invite others to practice the same steps. Before you know it, your cat will be able to tolerate [being held even at the vet’s office.](https://www.aaha.org/humane-restraint-of-animals/)

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## Q&A: How to Teach Your Cat to Enjoy Being Held

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### How do I train my cat to enjoy being held and handled?
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Start training sessions when your cat is relaxed by inviting him onto your lap and petting him with long strokes down his body, scratching his ears, and touching his tail, legs, and stomach. Use a soothing voice and practice this three to four times per day for thirty seconds. Once your cat is comfortable with petting, gradually progress to picking him up and placing him in your lap for five to ten seconds, offering treats throughout the process.



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### What are the signs that my cat doesn't like being held?
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Cats show their dislike for being held through several clear behaviors. Your cat may try to wiggle or squirm out of your arms, meow or growl while you're holding him, and the most obvious sign is his tail flicking back and forth during handling. These stress signals indicate your cat is uncomfortable and may need more gradual training to build tolerance for physical contact and restraint.



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### How long should I practice cat handling training sessions?
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Practice handling exercises in small increments several times per day, starting with thirty-second sessions for basic petting. When progressing to holding your cat in your lap, begin with just five to ten seconds before offering treats and allowing him to jump down. The key is working gradually to increase tolerance without overwhelming your cat, always staying within his threshold for comfortable handling.



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### Can I incorporate handling training into my cat's playtime?
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Yes, incorporating handling exercises into playtime is an effective training method. Encourage your cat to chase toys on a string for several seconds, then take a brief pause to handle his feet before resuming play. The goal is always "touch/treat" or "touch/play" to build positive associations with handling. This approach helps your cat associate physical contact with enjoyable activities rather than stress.



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### What should I do if my cat becomes stressed during handling training?
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If your cat becomes stressed during handling training, take a break and resume at a later time. The goal is to keep your cat within his threshold for tolerating handling without becoming overwhelmed. Don't try to do too much too soon, as this can cause your cat to attempt escape and set back your training progress. Always work at your cat's pace and comfort level.



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### How do I prepare my cat for veterinary exams and handling?
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Train your cat gradually by starting with relaxed petting sessions, then progressing to brief holding periods with treats. Practice touching different body parts including feet, mouth, tail, and belly while offering rewards. Once your cat is comfortable with you handling him, invite others to practice the same steps. This preparation helps your cat tolerate being held and examined even at the veterinarian's office.



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### Bradley Phifer, CBCC-KA® CPDT-KA®

Bradley Phifer, CBCC-KA CPDT-KA began his career in 2001 as the Director of Animal Behavior Programs for the Humane Society of Indianapolis. In an effort to build the interdisciplinary relationship between dog trainers and veterinarians, Brad joined the Broad Ripple Animal Clinic & Wellness Center in 2007.

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